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Holly Rabalais's avatar

My first marriage was a disaster, but I have two beautiful children because of it. After my divorce, I was a bit despondent. I remember talking to God one morning--I was 32 and felt like used goods. Who would want me? And would I want someone who also had “baggage?” I asked God to send me someone who would serve Him alongside me. I know that sounds like a crazy prayer, but I asked and He delivered.

Mike and I have been married 14 years. We had similar experiences in our first marriages, so we both understood the same hurt. His personality is very different from mine, but enjoy doing some of the same things. We have to step back and regroup sometimes when we don’t seem to be on the same page, but I think what makes us work is that we understand what a gift this relationship is and we are thankful for each other. It makes it easier to get over the small stuff.

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I’ve always felt like a whole, complete person. I’ve never cared if I had a traditional marriage or kids. The first time I got married it was in a state of total grief after my father died. It was a huge mistake. The 2nd time, we were both on a horse when we met each other. We are both avid equestrians and I liked his witty humor. He was well read, cerebral, and had lived all over the world. He was 51 and had never been married. 19 years later it is still a work in progress. We, too, are both curious. We spend a lot of time asking questions and looking for answers.

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